It's Challenging Being a Stay-at-Home Mom

Being a stay-at-home mom is hard work. It can be physically, mentally and emotionally draining. That is not to say there aren't a million amazing things about being a stay-at-home mom, but sometimes one just needs to talk about the tough parts of the job.

My daughter is 9-months old now and she never stops! Hence, the physically exhausting part of the job (never mind the never ending list of household chores that need to be done on a regular basis). Lilah is always on the go and getting into everything. It has definitely become more challenging to keep her occupied during the day which contributes to the mental exhaustion.

The reason I decided to write this blog post, however, is that I have been feeling a little (for lack of a better word), 'down' lately. I wanted to spend some time writing about the emotionally draining part of being a stay-at-home mom. Perhaps it will be therapeutic for me and maybe it will let other moms out there know that they are not alone if they are not feeling super happy all day every day.

I think there are several things contributing to the 'down' feeling I am currently experiencing. For starters, the weather is shitty and given that fall has just begun, it is only going to get worse. Add to that the fact that my hormones are out of whack again this week (if you know what I am saying). That being said, those factors don't completely explain my current emotional state.

I am feeling a little isolated. Sadly, we do not live in a family-friendly neighbourhood at the present time so there are no other young children around. I venture into a nearby family-friendly neighbourhood every single day in hopes of running into other moms and their kids, but it never happens. I take my daughter to the library every week with the same hope...nothing. We recently started taking a music class which is proving to be a positive experience, but getting out once a week to interact with other parents and children for an hour doesn't feel like much. At the current moment, I am trying to remain optimistic that we may walk away from the music class with a few new friends that we can get together with for play-dates.

Being a stay-at-home mom can also be a lonely job. Sure, you have someone else with you 24/7, but it is not the same as having another adult around that you can converse with. Living 9 1/2 hours away from both of our families and our friends that have children does not help with this feeling either.

I suppose I am a little bored as well. I know boredom is self-inflicted, but that doesn't mean I can't feel that way. It is hard not having time to do things for yourself that you enjoy. Yes, I do enjoy playing and interacting with my daughter more than anything else in the world, but I also like a little mental stimulation once in awhile and miss being able to sit down for a couple of hours and paint, read or scrapbook.

Let me just say, I don't feel like this everyday or even very often, but I know I am not alone in experiencing these feelings. I imagine there are plenty of other stay-at-home moms out there feeling much the same way. When I am overcome with these feelings, I suppose the best I can do is try to follow my mother's advice and "enjoy every minute of every day" and hope that this too shall pass...right? (I am sure a little sunshine would help too).