Our
house rarely gets cleaned anymore, our dishes don’t get washed as quickly as I
would like, our laundry piles up until we have 4 or more loads to do at one
time and our linens and towels no longer get washed as often as they used to. The
pile of papers I need to file and organize just keeps getting bigger and bigger
and I have very little time to cook or bake.
There
are days when I feel like I have no time to just play with my 2 year-old and
days when I feel like I have no time to interact with my 2-month old. I would
love to be able to give my older daughter the same kind of attention I did
before we had a second child and I would love to be able to give my baby girl
the same kind of attention that her older sister had when she was a baby.
I
am now a mother of two and rather than dwelling on all of the things that are
not getting done or the things that I don’t feel like I am doing a very good
job at right now, I am trying really hard every day to focus on the things that
I do accomplish and that I am good at.
I
am a good mother! My children are rested, clean, fed, clothed and they get
fresh air almost every single day. I believe those are major accomplishments in
and of themselves considering the time, energy and resources I currently have!
I am doing the best that I can and I think I am doing a darn good job.
As
mothers, we need to toot our own horns OFTEN because there are so many things
that we do every single day for our families that go unnoticed by the outside
world and that we get very little recognition or praise for.
The
highlights of my day are waking up to the smiling faces of my two beautiful
children and my loving husband, seeing my baby girl grin from ear to ear when I
sing her favorite song, giving my daughter a colored bubble bath and reading
her bedtime stories, and eating dinner together as a family (which is sometimes
impossible with a new baby). They are simple things, but they are the important
things. Who cares if I got around to cleaning the bathroom or vacuuming the
floors? No one is going to notice that I have piles of laundry waiting to be
washed or paperwork that needs to be filed. The happiness of my family is what
is important and I am writing this blog to remind myself of that more than
anything else.
For
all of you mothers out there that are striving to check everything off of your
to-do list and be the best at everything, take a moment to reflect on what is
truly important and focus on being the best that you can be for yourself and
for your family.
You are a fantastic mother!!! You keep your eye on what is important...you are there for and with your girlies. You listen to them, you talk with them, you play with them, you cherish them, you provide them with stimulating activities, you encourage their creativity....you love them. Who cares about laundry and dishes...this time goes by so quickly and what memories will you have with your girls if you spent your time cleaning in the kitchen instead of playing games and crafts and going for walks? You are an awesome Mummy!
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